Passive aggressiveness is never the answer.
Yet so many people think that it is the only way to get what they want. I think being kind goes a long way and it might even solve all your problems. However, this guy thought that it would work.
What is ‘it’ that I’m referring to? Well, you see, every relationship has it’s ups and downs, and that means there are going to be periods where you are not having sex. And that is perfectly normal.
After all, no relationship is perfect. Yet this guy thought that the best way to bring up this issue was to make a spreadsheet rather than simply talking to her. Talking and being open is the best way to resolve something.
He apparently didn’t know that.
Yesterday morning, while in a taxi on the way to the airport, Husband sends a message to my work email which is connected to my phone.
He’s never done this, we always communicate in person or by text. I open it up, and it’s a sarcastic diatribe basically saying he won’t miss me for the 10 days I’m gone.
Attached is a SPREADSHEET of all the times he has tried to initiate sex since June 1st, with a column for my “excuses”, using verbatim quotes of why I didn’t feel like having sex at that very moment.
According to his ‘document’, we’ve only had sex 3 times in the last 7 weeks, out of 27 “attempts” on his part.
And this is the all-important spreadsheet.
Did he really think this would work? I mean, did he think that she would just run into his arms after reading this spreadsheet? What did he hope to accomplish with this? I honestly have no idea.
And neither does his wife.
his is a side of him I have never seen before – bitter, immature, full of hatred. In person, he’d been acting normal the whole time, maybe a little standoff-ish in the last week.
Completely out of left field. Our sex life HAS tapered in the last few months, but isn’t that allowed? We are adults leading busy, stressful lives. I cook for him.
I do his laundry, I keep our house clean and tidy. It’s not like our sex life was going to be this way FOREVER, it was a temporary slow-down due to extenuating circumstances.
Do you think what he did was okay? Or should he have just talked about it?